About

Poly With a Big Heart belongs to Rusty. That’s me with the red hair and the ocean and the reflection of my phone in my sunglasses like a dork.

I identify as kinky, sex-positive, and feminist.

IMG_1072I’m also a mother of three, a community leader, a professional, a writer, and a haver of relationships that do not fit into the prescriptive norms of a primarily monogamous society. I’m polyamorous!

I categorize my approach to polyamory as egalitarian (meaning I do not practice hierarchy) with a heavy lean towards solo poly (meaning I prioritize autonomy over interdependence). I enjoy the relationship escalator, but also enjoy letting each partnership find its own level independent of any other. I also ascribe to the Relationship Anarchy style of labeling in that sometimes a label fits and other times it doesn’t and that doesn’t really affect how I love or prioritize anyone.

I practice ethical, consensual non-monogamy in my relationships – this means that all partners involved have consented to the relationships we have. This includes their other partners. I believe that trust and honesty are the fundamental building blocks of all relationships, and I encourage all efforts to grow in those areas.

Questions? I’m happy to answer them. Use the Contact page to shoot me a message and I’ll answer it on the blog!