Poly With a Big Heart belongs to me: Rusty (she/her), and the occasional guest blogger. I identify as kinky, sex-positive, non-binary, polyamorous, and feminist.

I’m also a mother of three, a community leader, a finance professional, a writer, and someone who rejects the dominant narrative when it comes to my interpersonal relationships.

I categorize my approach to polyamory as egalitarian (meaning I do not practice hierarchy) with a focus on compassionate autonomy. The relationship escalator is a thing I enjoy, but I am a firm believer in letting each relationship find its own level independent of any other. I identify with the concept of relationship anarchy and its rejection of coercive hierarchies, community participation and betterment, and the idea that regardless of how enmeshed I may or may not be with someone, it doesn’t really affect how I love or prioritize them.

I practice ethical, consensual non-monogamy – this means that all my partners involved have consented to the relationship structure we have, and their other partners have done the same with them. I believe that trust and honesty are fundamental building blocks in relationships, and I encourage all efforts to grow in those areas.

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