If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Non-Monogamy and Visibility: Coping Strategies for Hidden Partners I'm going to go out on a limb and say that secrets are almost always colored with pain. When people feel some level of insecurity in their own relationships, [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Honesty Isn't Harmful I say this to those closest to me quite a bit: you can't hurt me with the truth. What I mean by this is: More information is better - because I don't know [...]
**Originally written in 2016, this posted was updated in July of 2024. One of my favorite poly-epiphanies is this: my partners are with me because they want to be. There is magic in that. Once upon a time, I was in a long-term monogamous marriage. As I reflect on that period in my life, I [...]
Poly With a Big Heart 