I am dealing with a medical issue in my damn hand that makes it very hard to type, so this week's post is going to lean pretty heavily on an external link I think everyone should look at. It's one I've shared on social media a couple of times, but I will continue to sing [...]
Most of my friends identify as monogamous. They are lovely and caring and only want to see me happy! I am delighted to have them ask me questions about ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory. Every now and again during the course of these discussions, someone will say something to me that I'm sure feels [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Strengthening Relationships with Courageous Conversations One of the practices I've found helpful as a polyamorous person is the having of courageous conversations. I like to call them this as opposed to "difficult discussions" because I want to [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Non-Monogamy and Visibility: Coping Strategies for Hidden Partners I'm going to go out on a limb and say that secrets are almost always colored with pain. When people feel some level of insecurity in their own relationships, [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Honesty Isn't Harmful I say this to those closest to me quite a bit: you can't hurt me with the truth. What I mean by this is: More information is better - because I don't know [...]
**Originally written in 2016, this posted was updated in July of 2024. One of my favorite poly-epiphanies is this: my partners are with me because they want to be. There is magic in that. Once upon a time, I was in a long-term monogamous marriage. As I reflect on that period in my life, I [...]
Poly With a Big Heart 