I have two very different romantic relationships: an open relationship with a woman whose other partnerships are pursued without any obligation to me as far as notification and whose love interests I rarely meet until they become more serious, and a more structured relationship with a man whose love interests I am well aware of [...]
A challenge I face as a polyamorous person in a primarily monogamous society is working to unlearn what my culture has taught me about certain concepts. One of the things that keeps coming up for me is the idea that a place or event or experience is special and that if it is shared with more [...]
Jealousy is a thing, peeps. It is the dead horse beaten on a regular basis when discussions of polyamory are on the table, but that's because It Is A Thing. And it's not the biggest monster in my closet . . . but I have one - it's just more like a pocket monster. I carry [...]
Words matter. Words matter so, so much. In general, our most oft used ones are created by and evolve to suit the needs of the dominant group. Those who practice polyamory are at times limited by connotations, hidden meanings, and the implied expectations that exist in the common language we use to talk about our [...]
I am dealing with a medical issue in my damn hand that makes it very hard to type, so this week's post is going to lean pretty heavily on an external link I think everyone should look at. It's one I've shared on social media a couple of times, but I will continue to sing [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Strengthening Relationships with Courageous Conversations One of the practices I've found helpful as a polyamorous person is the having of courageous conversations. I like to call them this as opposed to "difficult discussions" because I want to [...]
If you have landed on this page, please click here to read a more current version of this essay: Non-Monogamy and Visibility: Coping Strategies for Hidden Partners I'm going to go out on a limb and say that secrets are almost always colored with pain. When people feel some level of insecurity in their own relationships, [...]
**Originally written in 2016, this posted was updated in July of 2024. One of my favorite poly-epiphanies is this: my partners are with me because they want to be. There is magic in that. Once upon a time, I was in a long-term monogamous marriage. As I reflect on that period in my life, I [...]
Poly With a Big Heart 